Future Lover

Dear Future Lover,

                

The end. Now that two-word statement speaks volume because that is all I have to say on how any future romantic relationship will end. But if I kept it like this, my fellow followers will be very confused. So, let go into further detail on what I mean.

First you must understand that men are simple creatures when it comes to choosing our mate. When we first look upon you and have our first conversation, that is when we decide if we will marry you or not. Now my theory is that the timeline of both individuals getting marry is within two years of when they start their romantic relationship. Of course, there are outside forces that could derail the timeline like financial issues, not mature enough or it was just a game in the end for either party. Now those outside forces rarely happens and, in my opinion, if you allow those outside forces to stop you from pursuing the “lover” to take the next step then you were not serious at all about that person in your life.

It is the year of 2020 and I think it is time for us to rethink of wasting time when it comes to romantic relationship. What do you mean about “wasting time”? based on the website, www.yourdictionary.com, it have stated that wasting time is to allow time to elapse in an unproductive manner. Now if you’re not having the desire of marrying the other individual and it is taking longer than 2 years then it is unproductive. Time is the most important asset that you can give to someone.   

Now this is not only a theory for me, it is also based on my experience and I truly believe that the two years’ timeline holds true for me. First relationship lasted 4 years and nothing came from it but heartache. Sure, it was fun during the journey but when it ended, heartache came. The same thing happens with the second one even though it lasted for 2 and half years. Now, I am not saying that you must be sadden if those relationships never worked out but I am saying that you must see the sign that if year two come by and that ring is not on your finger or you were not propose to. You must reconsider your option since time is very precious and that is the only thing you can give someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Now, go out there and learn, love and remember that your time is very precious. Use it wisely and truly think if two years have passed with your lover and he/she don’t want to take the next step. Then remember my two-word statement, the end.

A Simple Goal

You know what is the simplest thing to dream of but the hardest to follow through with. It is called a goal but of course, you thought I meant a relationship. That's the thing, a relationship could be a goal too but so can be a teacher, a flight pilot, or even a ballet dancer. The sky is the limit and only you can decide to continue on the path to reach your goal or let all of your hard work go down the drain. The person that you can truly blame is yourself because you gave up in the end.

Part Ways

Every teardrop that you came down with, I am here to make you forget about it. I break all the barriers to make everything into a movie. Tell me what you need, I will turn your reality into a series. With no goals insight, you must be feeling hurt from all that fight. You miss your chance so now it is time for me to rant. I could be that type of guy to lay out the pain but my pride would not allow me to be so lame. I hope next time that you will not be the same.

Viewpoint on Family

The concept of family is remarkably interesting since everybody has a certain viewpoint of what is meaningful to them. The general belief is that your family should be able to have your back through the good and bad. That is never the case in the long run.

You must think that I am speaking on this topic based on idealism or theory. That is far from the truth, this is all based on my experience. Here are a few details about me, I was born into a family of five from my mother’s side and born into a family of four from my father’s side. On my mother’s side, I have 2 brothers (really have 3 since my stepfather had a son that grew up with us) and 2 sisters than on my father’s side, I have 1 brother and 2 sisters. The only full-blooded sibling I have from the same mother and father is Kevin. I grew up with the belief that family should stick together no matter what and you can never choose which family you are born into.

Now back to why the general belief is like the belief of Santa Claus or the tooth fairy. I personally try to keep the peace and understand other people’s viewpoint but, in the end, you have to cut ties or keep a certain distance to go forward in your life. I always thought that the only thing different about being family from being friends is that you will fight and have disagreement but overall, you have a deep understanding and respect of each other to never cross the line. That belief has flip itself upside down and that is not my stance anymore. I mentally lost one sibling and I have to keep a certain distance from another. I have made friends that are close to me as siblings.

I am about to turn 30 years old and this will be the next milestone in my life. The new friendship that you make going forward will be a new extended family member that will be able to celebrate who you are and walk with you on your journey. My father was excessively big on friendship and being true to them like family. I hope I can be just as passionate as him when it comes to living life to the fullest. Now go out there and make a new family member who is on your wavelength. Who will you choose to love and connect with?

Soul Search

Emotions are turned up high, not knowing how hard it is to say goodbye. Why should I even try? Feeling lost but I am so tight. Anger won't fade away with a combination of negativity. Maybe this single essence is my true reality. Never knowing if life is guaranteed but you just got to truly believe. Maybe then you can finally see if your heart can be set free.

The Next Step

With the whole world stopping because of the COVID-19 pandemic. The question is “what is the next step” and should I even care? With the daily report of people passing away each day, I am sure that I am not the only one that has lost a loved one. It is crazy how people say that life is short. It is a short life that we have. My father was just here and now he is gone.

When he passed, something inside of me broke and it will never heal. It is something that I must live with, but I know Dad would not want me to be saddened by this breaking point. He would want me to figure out my next step. The basic question that is always asked during an interview is where you see yourself in the next 5 years?

The world is temporary on hold and I just must figure out my next step. The crazy thing about all of this is that I will not be able to celebrate my father in the traditional sense for a long time since the world is in chaos. What is my next step? I will let you know when I can make my father proud and even, I do not know when that will be.

Boundaries

The term, the boundary is defined as a limit of a subject or sphere of activity. Every child is taught at a young age of what boundary is and not to cross it. Sure, there are those outliers that could never read a room and always cross the line.

I have experienced these outliers a few times and now it has happened in my backyard. I guess that is why I am not as communicated as I like since people just don't know how to limit what they. They just must be in the know and never think to themselves "should I do this," or "will this hurt someone if I make this decision". Some people are aware of human nature and themselves at a certain level to always think of those questions because they want to keep the connection that they have made. 

You must think that this type of situation only happens to young adults or kids. But no, it can happen at any ages and I just wonder when they overstep their boundary. "Do you care for the other individual"? Of course, you will jump out of your chair stating loud that you do. It is a valid rejection and here is my response "why did you overstep that person's boundary and hurt him/her"? Remember the saying that "trust is hard to gain but easy to lose". 

Every time, you cross the line and you will cause that person to keep a certain distance more and more. It does not matter what type of relationship you guys have. If you cannot distinguish what a boundary is in a personal sense, then maybe you need to relearn it or learn how to communicate first without deciding.

Lost a piece of my Heart

The pain of losing someone who is close to your heart is very devastating. My father, Keith Grant is one of many who have lost his battle with the coronavirus on April 6th, 2020. This news has shocked me, my family, and his friends to the core of our heart. I already knew that my father had an ability to connect with people on a personal level but I never knew that he was a celebrity.

He was very passionate about me, Kevin, Kayandra, and Paula. He would sing praises of us to all of his friends. Looking through his Facebook profile, detail the type of man he was. No matter what, he was always bringing laughter to everybody that he knows. No wonder, I am always smiling and cracking jokes when I am speaking with people. I hate that he is gone and I constantly feel like it is my fault. It hurt so much, not being able to make fun of him anymore.

I was away for two years in a different state and I just move back into the house with dad. He got sick and passed away. A week after I came back and he is gone. My thought process keeps going around in my head "this I do this?" or "is this my fault?" I know that he was proud of me but I always felt that I was not there yet to tell him that I made it.

I have lost a father and a chuck of my heart. I will never get that back and I don't know why. I will always love him and will continue his legacy no matter what. He always told me that you are a Grant which means a king and you must follow your path no matter what.

I love you dad and please look out for me and my siblings like you have always done.

Korey Grant

Growth of a Good Man

Hello Everybody,

I have always wonder what sort of knowledge and experience does it take to be a good man. Do you grow into it or do you hit roadblock several times to level into that path? You must be wondering why I am asking this during my stage of life. Was it because of my upbringing or is it because I just did not know any better?

Now it wouldn't be appropriate to continue this discussion without looking into my past. As they say, nothing is venture unless we understand our past. I think I had a good childhood but nothing is always flowers and sunshine. A boy can only gain the right path if he was taught by a father figure but not everything child has that opportunity. Either the father was in their life but was never taught anything or the father was not there in the first place. This is a dilemma when a boy is finally about to hit 30 years old and he still does not know what ingredients he is missing to become his true self.

If only it was easy as mixing the right ingredients as shown in the TV show, Powerpuff girls which came out back in the '90s. I am going off-topic, let me focus on back on this question: what goes into a good man? Who decides if you are a good man? Is it society, your peers, or yourself? I believe that sooner or later, your soul or mind will hit a roadblock and that is when you need to decide to level up or go back to ground zero.

I have hit that roadblock with the many failed relationships and it is up to me to take that final step to pursue a deeper path. You must think that I blame my upbringing but that is further from the truth. Sure, it would be great if I was guided properly so I did not make terrible choices but I don't have time influence powers. That was great but it is time for me to forgive the past and move onward into walking into the golden guideline of being a good man. Whether women of this era appreciate that or not, only time will tell.

Struggle of a Heartache

Hello Everybody,

The pain of the heart is a unique circumstance since it can range from loneliness to heartbreak. Now I could go out of the way to break down the different categories when it pertains to each subject. But alas, I am not a philosopher and my goal is to demonstrate what goes into a heartbreak. From the beginning to end and I hope you readers can understand what this truly means.

When it comes to a relationship, there are different categories and perceptions of how people view each interaction. Now I am only going to focus on the granddaddy of them all which is the main purpose of why men and women fall in love and get married. Whether this concept will still be around after 10 more years is not my problem. What goes into a relationship when a man first meets a woman starts with trust. Now I believe that everything else is secondary because what comes with trust, respect will always follow along. Picture this: if you trust the person 100 percent then you will always give your full self to that person. Since you are giving your full self, you are also respecting that person's judgment. I hope this insight help somewhat.

Trust is the main baseline of any relationship and respect is what should always follow. Of course, there are a lot of people out there that assume that respect comes before trust but that is a misconception. Ask yourself this: How can I respect someone if I don't trust him/her? Oh, you got confused. Now I need to get back onto topic. I have been in three different relationships that have always ended badly for me. Once it ended, they have always done something that crushes my heart into pieces that truly relate to heartbreak. The second step is to get to know the person and while knowing the person, you're planning out your future life with them. People believe that this is nothing but that is wrong. When start planning this kind of future, you are putting your trust and being into the significant other. Of course, this never pans out for the best and the relationship will end.

Now just because the relationship end, does not mean that you automatically lose trust in that person. It just means that you have lost a romantic partner and gain a precious friend. It just does not always go that way. You must be wondering about how someone can lose your trust so easily after being together for so long. The saying "Trust is hard to gain and easy to lose" speaks volumes. In my case, for example, it all comes down to the "c" word which is cheating. I can always try to understand why it happens but ask yourself this: why do you want to hurt the person who you once love?